He Said, She Said: Ask Your Questions

We’re not relationship experts, but Benj and I are willing to try our hand and helping you sort out an issue you are having with your significant other! Send us your questions (in the comments below) about love and relationships — we’ll do our best to give you thoughts from both sides of the fence.

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  • http://twitter.com/jaclyngraves jaclyn graves

    Benji, will you EVER date a fan? =’( *tear* sincerely, @jaclyngraves :) :) 

    • Eminembabay

      No.

  • http://twitter.com/firexbomb Tangie

    What’s you’re favorite thing to do with Harlow and Sparrow?

  • http://twitter.com/firexbomb Tangie

    What’s you’re favorite thing to do with Harlow and Sparrow?

  • http://twitter.com/jaclyngraves jaclyn graves

    Benji, will you EVER date a fan? =’( *tear* sincerely, @jaclyngraves :) :) 

  • http://twitter.com/firexbomb Tangie

    What’s you’re favorite thing to do with Harlow and Sparrow?

  • http://twitter.com/jaclyngraves jaclyn graves

    Benji, will you EVER date a fan? =’( *tear* sincerely, @jaclyngraves :) :) 

  • Carmen

    My girlfriend wants to have a baby in the next year or so. we are not financially ready. What do I do? She REALLY wants one NOW.

  • Carmen

    My girlfriend wants to have a baby in the next year or so. we are not financially ready. What do I do? She REALLY wants one NOW.

    • Cassy_Freya

      Just talk to her. If you say the good words she’ll understand.

  • Shells

    My new boyfriend has one friend. she is a girl and very very pretty. He calls her all the time, and does everything with her. She has a boyfriend and they’ve never hooked up or dated, yet Im still feeling insecure, and a little bit uncomfortable. Should i tell him my feelings and risk looking like an insecure freak, or keep it to myself?

    • Kim

      keep it to yourself and try to get over it! he won’t understand your insecurity i guess

  • http://twitter.com/jaclyngraves jaclyn graves

    How do you break up with someone? NICELY? :)

  • http://twitter.com/jaclyngraves jaclyn graves

    How do you break up with someone? NICELY? :)

    • vindieselhunny

      you say “i have too much respect for myself” and move on w/o looking back! be a strong woman!!!

  • Lydia

    What am I supposed to do about a guy who says he likes me more than a friend but barely? He says he has mixed feelings but I like him a lot. Thanks for the help guys! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001864516928 Erika Alexza

    i like my bf but i just think that he should change the way he dresses up? and i think that he should go to the gym. i cant tell him that, coz im supposed to LOVE HIM FOR WHO HE IS. but i just thought that he should be sort’a conscious about his physic coz he’s getting a lot of flab already and I want whats best for him. 

    • rondolove

      you sound very shallow w/ this comment. let him be who he is, if he wants to change he will and if you cant deal w/ it then maybe you’re not the one for him.

  • Lydia

    What am I supposed to do about a guy who says he likes me more than a friend but barely? He says he has mixed feelings but I like him a lot. Thanks for the help guys! :)

  • Lydia

    What am I supposed to do about a guy who says he likes me more than a friend but barely? He says he has mixed feelings but I like him a lot. Thanks for the help guys! :)

  • http://twitter.com/jaclyngraves jaclyn graves

    Nicole, I know you follow fans.. and I want you to follow me! :) Thats literally all I want and I will be the happiest  person EVER. EVER! :) 

    • Eminembabay

      Really? Do you realize just how crazy she must think you are? Stay on topic. And no, Benji’s not going to date you. Get over it.

    • Eminembabay

      Really? Do you realize just how crazy she must think you are? Stay on topic. And no, Benji’s not going to date you. Get over it.

      • Joelyshhit

        HAHAHAHA…jaclyn you are quite the stalker. just saying

  • Lena

    What would you do if your bf/gf cheated on you and lied about it for a year? 

    Thannks!

  • http://twitter.com/tpbgrl JK

    How do i deal with a guy who i care alot about and he cares about me, but doesn’t want to date right now, but wants to “see each other” but he lives 3 hrs away from me, i broke it off b4; it got to complicated but now he wants “it” back, its not about sex..but he says cuz i’m the only one who cares about him..but hes been ignoring my texts lately and he knows i hate that..is it worth it if we both want the same thing but it got f’ed up b4 and it might again?  Thanks u guys

    • vindieselhunny

      go on w/ ur life, if and when hes ready commit to you and only you & will answer ur texts..then you can decide if hes good enough.

  • http://twitter.com/LaLaGCFan Lydia Longmore

    How do you handle not being with someone you desperately want too? And no Benji I’m not talking about you. :P or maybe I am. ;)

  • http://twitter.com/paigekanady Amanda Paige Kanady

    My boyfriend of two years is a bartender and feels that it is ok to lie and say he is single just to make a few extra bucks, I disagree, what do I do?

  • Angieameliej777

    Hey Nicole and Benjamin, when you have had quite a few destructive relationships, how do you go back to trusting people in your life ?

  • Stephanie

    I have a big problem with myself because I´m nineteen and i haven´t had a boyfried yet ?! Is that normal ? because all of my friends have or already had one :O

  • Stephanie

    I have a big problem with myself because I´m nineteen and i haven´t had a boyfried yet ?! Is that normal ? because all of my friends have or already had one :O

    • Anonymous

      Dont feel bad… Im 24 and havent had a boyfriend or been kissed yet. (@RockStarHoney03) i havent even been on a first date. So… Yea i feel ya

      • Stephanie

        That is so awesome to hear that i´m not alone really i´m sooo frustrated … i don´t know why i´m still alone and i feel like this is gonna be forever :(

  • http://twitter.com/sabmadden sabmadden

    What would you guys suggest is the best way to find myself a good man and what are the most important things I should focus on when deciding if he really is serious?

  • http://twitter.com/sabmadden sabmadden

    What would you guys suggest is the best way to find myself a good man and what are the most important things I should focus on when deciding if he really is serious?

  • C. C. Rushin-Brown

    I have been married for 22 years do you think you can hang in there and keep it tight like real tight eyeball popping tight.

    • C. C. Rushin-Brown

      I was referring to (S)(E)(X) no choking the chicken. Yall keep tight you feel me.

  • C. C. Rushin-Brown

    I have been married for 22 years do you think you can hang in there and keep it tight like real tight eyeball popping tight.

  • Kim

    There is this guy I like … we’re really good friends, are always flirting and made out a few weeks ago. I think he likes me the way like him, but he didn’t react to my request to see each other again. I said I want to meet, hang out … he didn’t have time so I said he should say when he has some free time. but nothing. a (male) friend of mine, said I have to wait because otherwise I will be too easy to get. But what if he never asks himself? What do you guys think about that ;) would love to hear your opinion. <3 K.

    • chibi

      couldn’t let this one go.  if he likes you, he will make time.  period.  no excuses, no i’m busy’s.  if he liked you as much as you like him, he would’ve been more clear about it.  steer away, steer away!

      chibi http://www.askchibi.com

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

      Ask him if he wants to go for coffee, if he likes you he won’t say no. 

    • Kim

      the problem is that my friends tell me that I definitely should NOT ask again. I should wait until he asks me to hang out or whatever …
      it’s complicated because we’re friends and will meet sometime again – with others around. let’s be honest: i want him to ask me to spend time alone with him :P question is: wait for him or ask again. he sometimes tends to be kinda shy – but so do I

  • Elle

    My boyfriend of 8 years hasn’t proposed to me. We’ve talked about getting married but…just talked. How do I get him to commit and when do I say enough is enough?

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Cody-Magalas/100001374423286 Cody Magalas

    Benji, your single, how did you fill up that spot in your life when everyone paired off?  (cuz I’m single too, and since I would never want another boyfriend to suffocate me, I just filled that spot with friends & family & pets & work).

  • Alan Jones763

    ok got a daugther called Misha she met some one  back stage (SURPRISE )out of a group when thay came over to the UK but he never tweets her and she is following  HIM   .it’s her birthday on the 16th SEPT Could this guy say happy BIRTHDAY  to her  he knows who he is    and is best friend is (TITO) .Hope you can help thank you Nicole.
    SHE IS A GREAT YOU LADY ,kind,funny ,you can  trust her with all her heart  ,never calls any1,.

    Regards Sue Jones

    • Eminembabay

      This is for relationship questions, not fan requests.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Dijana-Škaljo/100001600391393 Dijana Škaljo

    Wow..never expect that of you.So sweet :)
    Well..the ex thing! Do it or not..we doo really love each other,but there is soo manny things that right now separate us.What do you think..? xoxo

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Dijana-Škaljo/100001600391393 Dijana Škaljo

    Wow..never expect that of you.So sweet :)
    Well..the ex thing! Do it or not..we doo really love each other,but there is soo manny things that right now separate us.What do you think..? xoxo

  • Christinele

    1 year ago my friend, who i care about a lot, told me he had feelings for me but he couldnt be in a relationship at the time (+ he lives 4 hrs away)..so we decided to keep a distance, in hopes the feelings would disappear. but recently, we’ve been talking, texting, videochatting a lot, while he’s been out of the country. could this mean anything, like maybe he still has feelings for me? 

  • vDash

    What’s your advice how to balance work and love?

  • @Linda_vong

    Dating a guy for 3 years now but never officially. Instant connection and chemistry is electric. We live about 40mins apart. At first things were great, of course! Then he became too “busy” always working and spending time with his son. We don’t talk on the phone only text. He text me and comes see me when it’s convenient for him and it’s not much either. But when we do see eachother it’s like no time has pass. Recently I’ve been telling him things need to change or I won’t continue going no where with him. Then he hits me with “I love you”. I have a lot of love for him but don’t get enough QT to fall for the guy. I don’t why I’m holding on! What’s his deal and what should I do??

    P.S. I just need a man like Benji Lol…dreaming =)

    • rondolove

      have u ever seen the movie “hes just not that into you”??? if a guy wants you, nothing will stop him & call me crazy but to love someone there has to be more communication than thru text…obviously he’s hiding something! and too keep you at his convenience he says “i love you” he sounds very experienced in this kind of thing…. my advice is move on, if u mean anything to him, he will do whatever it is to keep you…

  • Val

    Hi. I’m going through a really rough break up right now. I thought he was the one and i’m having a hard time accepting the fact that it’s over. The relationship ended because my ex realized that I wasn’t emotionally ready to be in a healthy relationship. Any advice at this time would be greatly appreciated.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

      Dear Val,
      Thinking he is the one is never enough, you have to know he is the one.
      Even though this relationship is over, you can still be happy. Have a Girls Night Out with your friends, or even a sleepover for old times sake. =] Nothing makes me feel better like spending time with friends.
      Probably not a good idea to watch romantic movies so watch funny or scary ones.
      Hope this helps.
      Camille

  • Jusnimo

    Okay, so my boyfriend (3yrs) has a good friend who I’m almost certain has a gay crush on him, even though he does not openly admit to gay, and pretends (very unconvincingly) not to be.
    They spend way to much time together, and I just don’t feel comfortable in their presence– like a 3rd wheel… tres awkward!  don’t want to ruffle any feathers or out anybody just dunno how much longer I can co-exist with my man’s other man (y’know!!?)

    thanks guys/ please help!!?

    • Anonymous

      also…
      I know how this sounds!  my bf is NOT gay.  not that there’s anything wrong with it if he was I just can’t stand people living a lie…y’know like out with it already- just decide and f’in be HONEST, like is that too much to ask?  I think people should live how ever way they chose and that’s fine as long as their honest with themselves and people around them than good for that.  it’s just when people start pretending to be what their not that it is despicable– I think, just completely inexcusable.  So my boy is not gay, just oblivious and naive and doesn’t have that 6th sense like I do– which is why it’s hard to talk about because I really don’t want to alienate him from his friends– just wish he spent more time with guys who have a good influence on him y’know, some one more so in his position (like young committed + motivated) and not scheming manipulative and quite probably living a lie. I just don’t trust that dude… you guys are cool though.  i like this idea and hope you keep the good times rollin’ ;)

  • http://twitter.com/Klare_loki Klare Karte

    Hi Benj, when I was 17/18 y.o. I forced my ex bf to makeup like you LOL, (it’s ur fault, not mine ahahha just kidding)
    now i’m 25 y.o. and I’ve been with my bf for 5 years (but he never did makeup ahhah) now i wanna marry him in Las Vegas, my bf has already decided everything, but he likes to procrastinate!how can i do?
    suggest me some way to convince him!

  • Anonymous

    I work from inside our home all day, my hubs works outside all day ( I’m a golfcourse widow) so when we are lucky enough to get a sitter, I want to get out and he wants to stay in…

    • Camille

       Have a nice picnic in the front yard. That way he can be at home and you can feel less cupped up.

  • Anonymous

    Im running out of special ways to say “I love you” to my husband, do you have any creative ideas on how to remind him that I care?

    • Camille

      I like making a nice lunch for my dad to take to work and writing  a nice note on a napkin for him to read. You can also put a note under his pillow for him to find when he goes to sleep. Whenever I want to show someone I care I give them a hug, that puts a smile on their face. =]  Hope this helped
      Camille

  • Jessica

    hey, im having a hard time with someone ive met…He has a baby mama and claims he is not with her anymore…However, he always sends her messages on Facebook and text. I understand the need to be in contact with her because of the baby, but my gut tells me he is lying and ive just been his booty call until the baby is born. Help me!!!! By the way, Benji, ur my true love LOL

  • Jessica

    By the way Benji: if u ever dont have a girlfriend, Look me up baby!!! Lol that was a joke…unless u want to lol

  • http://twitter.com/moonlitdance Adrienne

    I’m 21 and no guy has ever asked me out. Guys have told me they like me. They’ve said I’m cute. but they’ve never asked me out. Why is this? is it something I’m doing wrong? or is it the guys’ problem? I have had one boyfriend ever and even then I had to ask him out. I know there’s nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out, but I would like to know that guys consider me for dating without having to ask them myself.

    • Camille

      Hi, I have had the same problems. I’m 16 and just had my first boyfriend this year. I used to think I was doing something wrong but that wasn’t the case. It is usually the guy you are talking to. For me, they would flirt, say I’m cute, but as soon as I start flirting they go find a new girl. I have made up my mind to not let this get to me. I used to be really shy, so when I flirt I come on  strong. I have to remind myself not to be so obvious. I try and be as out going as I can, and have interesting things to talk about. This has worked quite well. Hope this helped.
      Camille

      • http://twitter.com/moonlitdance Adrienne

        you’re only 16 and already had a bf? dang I was 18 almost 19 when I finally got a bf. and that relationship only lasted 5 months (I had so much going on in my life that I broke it off, that and he needs to lay off the video games) I’ve been single for over 2 years now. I’ve flirted with guys and they’ve flirted right back and still no luck. 

        • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

          I’m not great at advice, but there is one thing I’ve learned in the dating world, it’s that the right guy will come to you. Men are really quite stupid so when they talk to girls, they get overwhelmed or something. It is the strangest thing to me since girls who are not as nice as me get so many boyfriends. It will all balance out in the end. Those girls will marry too young to uneducated guys and get pregnant to young as well. The rest of us will be better off and will marry smart men who hold jobs that make enough money to sustain a family. If you are patient and open with guys the right guy will come to you.

        • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

          I’m not great at advice, but there is one thing I’ve learned in the dating world, it’s that the right guy will come to you. Men are really quite stupid so when they talk to girls, they get overwhelmed or something. It is the strangest thing to me since girls who are not as nice as me get so many boyfriends. It will all balance out in the end. Those girls will marry too young to uneducated guys and get pregnant to young as well. The rest of us will be better off and will marry smart men who hold jobs that make enough money to sustain a family. If you are patient and open with guys the right guy will come to you.

        • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

          I’m not great at advice, but there is one thing I’ve learned in the dating world, it’s that the right guy will come to you. Men are really quite stupid so when they talk to girls, they get overwhelmed or something. It is the strangest thing to me since girls who are not as nice as me get so many boyfriends. It will all balance out in the end. Those girls will marry too young to uneducated guys and get pregnant to young as well. The rest of us will be better off and will marry smart men who hold jobs that make enough money to sustain a family. If you are patient and open with guys the right guy will come to you.

  • LAgirl

    I dated my bf for a year, and went through A LOT in that year. We recently broke up. He hooked up with someone, then i did, and now he’s talking to someone potentially dating them. He is still trying to hang out with me and talk to me even though he is trying to move on to another girl. There is no trust now and I am so confused. Let go or fix?

    • chibi

      I hope that these questions get answered.  Some of them make me sad to know that people are struggling with relationships not worth their time. :(

      if it doesn’t get answered:  let go!  seriously.  LET GO.

      http://www.askchibi.com

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

      Try and be friends with him, if that doesn’t work then let go.

  • DSL

    What is the secret to getting him to actually rinse a dish and put it in the washer? No matter how many times I yell, beg, wimper or drop hints…. It doesn’t get through. One time I even let teh dishes just pile up for a week. No, it didn’t work…. Just made more work for me to clean up. I guess I’ve answered my own question, if I want it done, do it myself. But seriously, is there another way? PLEASE HELP!

  • AshHole

     My Bf can’t agree to disagree- should I just give in my side to shut him up?

    • Lindsay

      no…I had the same situation with my ex-husband…it works for a while but as time progresses and you’ve been letting him have his way you lose yourself and it becomes very difficult to recover from

  • Ab’s

    Hey Nic,

    I’m turning 25 this weekend…..okay 26.  I’ve always been know as a party girl, and always date the party guy.  But as of lately I’ve been reevaluating my life.  I’ve tried dating the boring guy but then I start to go insane, so then I turn back the bad boys, where I have very unhealthy relationships.  At the end of the day all I really want to do is settle down, and eventually start a family.  I guess my question is How do I brake this cycle.  What is the happy medium between both worlds. And is it possible for me to be my outgoing self, and still find someone who likes me for me and can exist in my world without destroying it, or me.  Please shed some light.

    -Ab’s 

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

      Find a guy who’s fun and exiting but can also have a stable relationship

  • Tiffany

    I’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 years now. At first it was great, it was very exciting, and everything moved so quickly and smoothly. we were both just head over heels in love. But these days we’re very distant and we can hardly have a conversation without fighting. We are starting to spend a lot of time apart and its scaring me a little. There have been times where we don’t speak for days at a time. Every time i try to bring up our problems he gets pissed off and walks away. What should I do? Should I be taking this as a hint that the relationship has ran its course?

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Kate-Gingerswed/100002673307115 Kate Gingerswed

    Hey Nicole and Benji, I have a problem.
    My boyfriend Mike died 6 months ago. But now I have admirer. He wants date, but I can’t if I want it. I still love Mike.
    Do it or no?xoxo Kate

    • Mel

      :( i’m so sorry for your loss. You’ll probablly always have feelings for Mike but that doesn’t mean you can’t have other relationships too, however it might feel a bit soon at this point. Does this new guy know the situation?

  • Emily

    Hey Benji and Nicole. I like this guy but im not sure what to do because he doesnt like me back.
    and Benji I have posters of Good Charlotte back at my old house and ive been to so many of your concets. Keep up the good work. And Nicole your beautiful im so happy for u and Joel

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

      I once wasted 3 years of my teenage life liking a guy that didn’t like me back. I did so, because I was determined to wait till he noticed me. It is my only regret in my life. Only because I was foolish  and didn’t realize he never will like me. My advice to you is to move on, if he ever comes around just say “I waited for you and now it’s too late, I’m gone” or something to that affect. Don’t waste your life on this guy, it’s not worth it.
      Camille

  • Courtney

    What do you do if your boyfriend has bad breath?! I don’t want to embarrass him but it ruins everything :(

  • Courtney

    What do you do if your boyfriend has bad breath?! I don’t want to embarrass him but it ruins everything :(

  • BeMyGaurdianAngel?

    I know my comment probably won’t stand out from the rest..there are so many of them, But I do have something to say. Ahem, I feel like I’m stuck. I don’t know where to turn and I have been feeling very sad lately. I know I am not the only one who has felt this way. When will the day come when I can completly open up to someone? I think I’m sounding emo. Damn. Well whatever these are my feelings and I just wanted to get them out there somehow so thank you Benji and Nicole for giving me somewhere to write this down. Maybe now I can get past this.

    Love,

    Brittany

    P.s. I love Good Charlotte

  • Anon

    My boyfriend thinks we should move in together before we get engaged to try on how living together would be. I say we should get engaged before we move in together, because engagement is the trial period and my family would totally flip otherwise anyway. What do you think?

  • A_Arellano182

    Hey Nicole and Benji! Ok I’m going to really need your help here. I have an ex that has come back into my life. The reason for the breakup was a mutual decision to work out some personal issues we each had. He now says he wants me back, but he plays it hot and cold. Do I even bother trying again or do I just cut my losses now?

  • Commitmentphobic

    nicole ive loved you since your simple life days

    ive had a few long term relationships, on my 3rd now. but i find i usually get bored or sick of the other person at the 3 yr mark, thats when i start becoming annoyed by their flaws, get bored, etc.  is this normal or do i have commitment phobia?

  • http://twitter.com/que_eel Raquel Silva

    I’m in love with a man who doesn’t even know I exist, what should I do? BTW, this man is Benjamin Madden….

    • Emily

      lol as am i <3

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

      You really can’t do anything. I love him too, but I can’t be with him either.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

      You really can’t do anything. I love him too, but I can’t be with him either.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

    I have one dating rule I stand by, NEVER get back together with your ex. There is a reason you broke up. You can still be friends though. I am still friends with most of my exes 

  • Anonymous

    I’am married and in love with another man..he’s a friend of both of us. It’s not right, i know. And i love my husband. But i’m kinda confused about my feelings..dunno what do to :-(

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

    Moving in together first is the smarter choice. If you get engaged first and it doesn’t work, you will make a fool of yourself for jumping in too fast. Take it slow, one day at a time.

  • Newworlddiva

    Hey guys! My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years and one child. He has proposed massriage twice but I’m not ready and I’ve told him that I don’t know if I ever will be. Where do we go from here.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

    Dear Brittany,
    Everyone gets “emo” sometimes. You just have to know you can”t let it break your spirit. You have to find something that makes you happy so you can make it through. Listen to Hold On it is the perfect song for anyond who is feeling down.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

    You have to tell him. Relationships rely on total honesty.

  • Tshoemakerrdh

    Just moved in with my boyfriend to a new city. We know no one, have no jobs yet ( very broke)  and are driving each other crazy. He’s so moody, I can’t deal with it. Help. 

  • kessy

    Hey Benj and hellooo Nicole :)
    Uhm, what should I do when I think that all my friends I usually hang out with actually suck? Realizing they don’t give a damn about you but on the other hand still are your friends? O.o That’s why I live and trust only a few people, but are those “friends” worth having mind-trouble?

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1376348084 Camille Panetta

      I feel your pain. I try and find new friends when  this happens. At the moment I only have a few friends. I branched out though and made a new friend last month or so and we get closer every day. I suggest you find some new friends and ditch the bad ones

  • http://twitter.com/NRichieOfficial Nicole Richie Madden

    I just wanna say, I LVOE YOU NICOLE :)  xo

  • http://twitter.com/NRichieOfficial Nicole Richie Madden

    I just wanna say, I LVOE YOU NICOLE :)  xo

  • http://twitter.com/NRichieOfficial Nicole Richie Madden

    I just wanna say, I LVOE YOU NICOLE :)  xo

  • http://twitter.com/NRichieOfficial Nicole Richie Madden

    I love you Nicole :) xo

  • http://twitter.com/NRichieOfficial Nicole Richie Madden

    I love you Nicole :) xo

  • http://twitter.com/NRichieOfficial Nicole Richie Madden

    I love you Nicole :) xo

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000923230024 Magda Radniecka

    Hey Nicole I’m Magda I have 18 years old and I’m from Poland and my  big dream is to meet you. I love your style so much and I’m big fan of house of harlow 1960. I’m totally in love with  chelsea cat eye sunglasses. I’d like to ask you if ever I will be able to buy your sunglasses in poland? best wishes to you and your family ! :)

  • veronicaN

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years, and everything is great except I absolutely cannot stand his mother. She’s treated me with contempt and is rude to me.  I’ve tried being nice as possible, but she doesn’t care (eg: she gave me a bar of soap as a gift.  Really thoughtful, yeah?).  She’s kind of not the woman I want in my life, or around any children of mine.  Deal breaker?  She really would put the monster in mother-in-law.

  • FeelingUsed

    Been in an on/off relationship for last 6 years.. broke up for 9 months he was with someone else.. back together for like 2 years now… He’s been on dates (one I caught him on.. ) and showed up with a hickey on his neck once too.. Says “I wouldn’t be here with you if I didn’t care”… he’s just using me right?? :( 

  • Tarnbrister

    i just love you both. that is all.

  • Mary

    Hey guys I’ve a problem for about an year now. I love this boy who was my best friend ever… you know like you can tell him everything and so on.. He knew that I love him and actually he started everything before I fell in love with him. but when we were close to beeing in a relationship with eachother ( he told my best friend and his now girlfriend that he loves me ) he slept over at a another girls house and 3 weeks later they were a couple. I have to deal with him like everyday ’cause we have the same friends.

    But my problem now is that he is acting weird ever since he is with his girlfriend .. like he becomes jealous when I talk about other boys I met and last weekend we went camping and he brought his camera. He took more pics of me than of his girl….
    All my friends say that he still likes me or something like that but I’m not sure… What would you say. can you help me ?

  • Laur

    So there’s this guy, I met him last year right before my birthday at a friend’s house and we hit it off. I really liked him and everyone told me he was into me too, so I invited him to my birthday party. After that, we started going out together on the weekends and when he was really drunk he’d tell everyone we were “together” and if people asked if we were offically boyfriend and girlfriend he’d say “not yet”. But in the morning when he was sober he didn’t text me very often and when he did, it was really short. I’m kind of shy and I don’t like to text guys unless they text me first but all my friends and his friends told me he’s really shy too and that I should take initiative. So I did, but he continued to be really short and boring with his texts and after a while we stopped texting. I was wondering what was going on because we were supposedly supposed to be “together” but he never talked to me. Eventually he got the balls to tell me he wasn’t interested in a relationship. I was kind of sad but got over it and decided I’d move on with my life.

    BUT.

    Since then, every time I run into him when I’m out with my friends somewhere, he ditches whoever he’s with and stays with me the rest of the night. One time he even ditched this girl he was out with for her birthday to hang out with me the rest of the night. He always tells me how much he really likes me and how he wants to hang out with me more often or take me out to dinner or movies blah blah blah and I tell him I feel the same way so to text me. Usually, he’ll text me the next morning to make plans but we never end up actually hanging out. Basically, I only see him if I run into him somewhere. We always have a really good time and I love being with him but it’s sad because I know I won’t see him again until we randomly run into eachother. Sometimes my friends invite him places without telling me and when I get there, he’s there waiting for me all happy. We have a good time and then I don’t hear from him again until we either run into each other or someone invites one of us to the same party on purpose.

    Ok so my question is, what the hell should I do? I really like this guy, but I know it will probably never go any further. I personally want to move on and when we run into each other and he wants to hang out to ignore him ’cause i just keep getting heartbroken. But my friends all say he’s into me but he’s really shy and he’s never had a girlfriend before and is scared to be in a relationship but to just give it time and it’ll work out. They want me to invite him to my birthday again this year.

    What should I do? Sorry for the novel lol.

  • Klara

    Benji, do you consider yourself an expert in love?  I really like this guy, he’s a really goodlooking guitarplayer in the best band ever. I have met him a few times and he is really fun and interesting. I would like to go on a date with him, how do you think I should do?? 

    Nicole, what do you think? You do have the experience of his sort of things, I mean, your man is a really goodlooking singer in the best band.

    Take care! :) / Klara

  • Klara

    Benji, do you consider yourself an expert in love?  I really like this guy, he’s a really goodlooking guitarplayer in the best band ever. I have met him a few times and he is really fun and interesting. I would like to go on a date with him, how do you think I should do?? 

    Nicole, what do you think? You do have the experience of his sort of things, I mean, your man is a really goodlooking singer in the best band.

    Take care! :) / Klara

  • Klara

    Benji, do you consider yourself an expert in love?  I really like this guy, he’s a really goodlooking guitarplayer in the best band ever. I have met him a few times and he is really fun and interesting. I would like to go on a date with him, how do you think I should do?? 

    Nicole, what do you think? You do have the experience of his sort of things, I mean, your man is a really goodlooking singer in the best band.

    Take care! :) / Klara

  • Klara

    Benji, do you consider yourself an expert in love?  I really like this guy, he’s a really goodlooking guitarplayer in the best band ever. I have met him a few times and he is really fun and interesting. I would like to go on a date with him, how do you think I should do?? 

    Nicole, what do you think? You do have the experience of his sort of things, I mean, your man is a really goodlooking singer in the best band.

    Take care! :) / Klara

  • Klara

    Benji, do you consider yourself an expert in love?  I really like this guy, he’s a really goodlooking guitarplayer in the best band ever. I have met him a few times and he is really fun and interesting. I would like to go on a date with him, how do you think I should do?? 

    Nicole, what do you think? You do have the experience of his sort of things, I mean, your man is a really goodlooking singer in the best band.

    Take care! :) / Klara

  • Klara

    Benji, do you consider yourself an expert in love?  I really like this guy, he’s a really goodlooking guitarplayer in the best band ever. I have met him a few times and he is really fun and interesting. I would like to go on a date with him, how do you think I should do?? 

    Nicole, what do you think? You do have the experience of his sort of things, I mean, your man is a really goodlooking singer in the best band.

    Take care! :) / Klara

  • Eva

    hi… first of all, thanks for doing this!!
    i’m 20 and there is that guy (26) whom i really like. i met him like 8 months ago, and from the beginning there was a connection. i’m shy, but with him i just felt comfortable. we hung out a couple of times, and since the beginning he is writing me every single day (on skype), really every day (if i’m in the same town or 1000s of miles away). it’s always him who is starting a conversation and when i’m ignoring him for a couple of days, he’s always wondering what’s going on with me. he never writes me in a flirty way, but sometimes he is telling me that he went home with a girl. but i don’t think that’s true. he is also shy and a serious person. when i meet him by accident he is very nice, and then talks to me for very long times, and he always brings me home (eventhough he lives in the different direction). but he never makes a move. but the way he looks at me… i don’t know what to think. everybody is telling me, that it means something when a guy writes you. But this is now going on for months. when i ask him to hang out, most of the time he says no. he always gives me explanations, but he says no. what’s going on in his mind? does he like me? or should i try to forget him?

  • Eva

    hi… first of all, thanks for doing this!!
    i’m 20 and there is that guy (26) whom i really like. i met him like 8 months ago, and from the beginning there was a connection. i’m shy, but with him i just felt comfortable. we hung out a couple of times, and since the beginning he is writing me every single day (on skype), really every day (if i’m in the same town or 1000s of miles away). it’s always him who is starting a conversation and when i’m ignoring him for a couple of days, he’s always wondering what’s going on with me. he never writes me in a flirty way, but sometimes he is telling me that he went home with a girl. but i don’t think that’s true. he is also shy and a serious person. when i meet him by accident he is very nice, and then talks to me for very long times, and he always brings me home (eventhough he lives in the different direction). but he never makes a move. but the way he looks at me… i don’t know what to think. everybody is telling me, that it means something when a guy writes you. But this is now going on for months. when i ask him to hang out, most of the time he says no. he always gives me explanations, but he says no. what’s going on in his mind? does he like me? or should i try to forget him?

    • Eva

      what should i do????

  • Belén

    Hey ya! do you believe in long distance relationships? hope to get my question answered! love you Benj! both of u should do a relationships program,answering questions made by the public,and Joel cooking (? think about it =p

  • Belén

    Hey ya! do you believe in long distance relationships? hope to get my question answered! love you Benj! both of u should do a relationships program,answering questions made by the public,and Joel cooking (? think about it =p

  • Eva

    hi… first of all, thanks for doing this!!
    i’m 20 and there is that guy (26) whom i really like. i met him like 8 months ago, and from the beginning there was a connection. i’m shy, but with him i just felt comfortable. we hung out a couple of times, and since the beginning he is writing me every single day (on skype), really every day (if i’m in the same town or 1000s of miles away). it’s always him who is starting a conversation and when i’m ignoring him for a couple of days, he’s always wondering what’s going on with me. he never writes me in a flirty way, but sometimes he is telling me that he went home with a girl. but i don’t think that’s true. he is also shy and a serious person. when i meet him by accident he is very nice, and then talks to me for very long times, and he always brings me home (eventhough he lives in the different direction). but he never makes a move. but the way he looks at me… i don’t know what to think. everybody is telling me, that it means something when a guy writes you. But this is now going on for months. when i ask him to hang out, most of the time he says no. he always gives me explanations, but he says no. what’s going on in his mind? does he like me? or should i try to forget him?

  • Cmaier

    Hey you two! I love my boyfriend dearly, but he gained a lot in the past three years of our relationship and does not see any need in getting in shape again. It sounds absolutely superficial, but I would love him to get back in shape, because it defenetly is more attractive. So what do you suppose? Forget about his looks and just continue to love him for who he is?becaus thats what I do, but I would really prefer him to look better again, like he did when we first met.

  • Cmaier

    Hey you two! I love my boyfriend dearly, but he gained a lot in the past three years of our relationship and does not see any need in getting in shape again. It sounds absolutely superficial, but I would love him to get back in shape, because it defenetly is more attractive. So what do you suppose? Forget about his looks and just continue to love him for who he is?becaus thats what I do, but I would really prefer him to look better again, like he did when we first met.

  • Cmaier

    Hey you two! I love my boyfriend dearly, but he gained a lot in the past three years of our relationship and does not see any need in getting in shape again. It sounds absolutely superficial, but I would love him to get back in shape, because it defenetly is more attractive. So what do you suppose? Forget about his looks and just continue to love him for who he is?becaus thats what I do, but I would really prefer him to look better again, like he did when we first met.

  • Cmaier

    Hey you two! I love my boyfriend dearly, but he gained a lot in the past three years of our relationship and does not see any need in getting in shape again. It sounds absolutely superficial, but I would love him to get back in shape, because it defenetly is more attractive. So what do you suppose? Forget about his looks and just continue to love him for who he is?becaus thats what I do, but I would really prefer him to look better again, like he did when we first met.

  • Cmaier

    Hey you two! I love my boyfriend dearly, but he gained a lot in the past three years of our relationship and does not see any need in getting in shape again. It sounds absolutely superficial, but I would love him to get back in shape, because it defenetly is more attractive. So what do you suppose? Forget about his looks and just continue to love him for who he is?becaus thats what I do, but I would really prefer him to look better again, like he did when we first met.

  • Cmaier

    Hey you two! I love my boyfriend dearly, but he gained a lot in the past three years of our relationship and does not see any need in getting in shape again. It sounds absolutely superficial, but I would love him to get back in shape, because it defenetly is more attractive. So what do you suppose? Forget about his looks and just continue to love him for who he is?becaus thats what I do, but I would really prefer him to look better again, like he did when we first met.

  • Anonymous

    I have a serious question.
    No one has invited me to Google+ and I’m a little worried. Do my friends hate me? Am I going to die alone?

    • Cassy_Freya

      Try to invite them first, and then see what happen…

      • http://twitter.com/MaiaGC MaiaGC

        You can’t invite friends if you don’t have an account and you can’t have an account if you don’t get an invitation, lol. I don’t care, I still have facebook and Twitter *sigh*

    • Ekleinbu

      Maybe your friends aren’t in either. Google+ is also reached capacity..maybe you should take those things into account before being so superficial. 

      • http://twitter.com/MaiaGC MaiaGC

        LOL, relax duuuuuuuuude, I was joking. Of course I’m not going to die alone, my cats love me.

  • Hind A B

    hey my name is hind, im 21 years old. okay the problem is that I dont date guys I think its waste of time for me I have the idea that the one will come to me we need no dates and restaurants to make up our mind and I always put high standard guy on my mind that I dont find in the normal guys around me . Im so straight forward Im always honest with guys  which push guys away Im workaholic and I dont have alot of fun that scares me so much specially Im young people say that i gotta problem and I dont want to face the reality and im afraid of love and relationships so what do you think ?? please Benji and nicole help any advise will do ??
    thanx xx 
    Hind 

  • Anonymous

    What do you do if you really love someone but you want opposite things in life? I want to move to LA to pursue a career, he wants to live in the country in the midwest, 2.5 kids, blah blah. We can’t come to an agreement and neither of us would be happy just following the other. Are there any concessions that could be made not involving the valley?

  • Amanda

    hi nicole and benji, my husband gives me mixed signals ever since we moved into a house by his brother and sister. the only thing he wants to do is hang out with his brother and im left taken care of the kids by myself. when its time to go to bed he wants to pay attention to me, but by that time i feel lonely to where i don’t want to do anything cause i want to be treated with love everyday not just at night. ive tried talking to him but doesn’t listen. is there anything else i can do to make him understand where im coming from nicole? and benji, am i wrong for not wanting him to spend so much time with his brother than me?

  • ash

    hi dr drew cough cough nicole and benj =] i been flirting and hanging out with this guy and he flirts with me backbut he doesnt make a move he seems a bit shy … i never usually go out with this type of guy not sure what to dooo…. how can i tell he is into me .????? or not should i make the first move PLEASE HELP

  • Emma

    Hello Benji and Nicole, do you think in a couple there is a height difference that is just too much, like where is the limit, and is there also an age difference that once you past this or that amount of years in difference, it just gets creepy, Thank You.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Nancy-Blub/100000374211383 Nancy Blub

    Nicole are you still in love with Joel? Because I’m not inlove anymore with my boyfriend after almost 3 years, but I dont wanna lose him as well, I already told him and yeah guess I’m hurting his feelings..just don’t know how to act in this situation..So Benji & Nicole what do you suggest to do?

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Nancy-Blub/100000374211383 Nancy Blub

    Nicole are you still in love with Joel? Because I’m not inlove anymore with my boyfriend after almost 3 years, but I dont wanna lose him as well, I already told him and yeah guess I’m hurting his feelings..just don’t know how to act in this situation..So Benji & Nicole what do you suggest to do?

  • GUILT

    For the kids?  Im in a one sided marriage, I provide everything.  Money, home, house keeping, cooking, ect, ect…… Do you think that a person should stay in a marriage… “For the kids”.

  • http://twitter.com/dingowolfs dingowolf

    I like to lick my girlfreinds feet but see wont let me lick them unless she has been for a jog first is she sick or me for licking them.

  • http://twitter.com/dingowolfs dingowolf

    I like to lick my girlfreinds feet but she only lets me when she has been for a jog so i ask myself and you is she sick or me for licking.

  • Apduarte1289

    I just ended a relationship with someone I knew for nine years, we dated for off and on about 3. We’re still friends, and it has been  a few months since the break up. I keep going from feeling lonely to the thought of having someone being akin to being smothered with a pillow. How exactly does one get through this phase?? ‘Cause it seriously blows :(

  • KATE

    Hi Nicole and Benj!

    My name’s Kate and I have a relationship problem. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years and I’ve come to realize that the relationship is going no where and has become destructive.
     
    We live together, he’s financially unstable, depressed, and can get aggressive. My question is, how do I break up him?

    I don’t want to kick him to the curb because I care about him as a friend, but I can’t continue living like this for my own sake.

    You’re advise would be greatly appreciated!
    XOXO Kate.

  • Crazy4hotlips

    Hello Nicole & Benji , My Question is how do you keep a long distence relationship with someone going? He lives in Los Angeles working on his music and I’m in San Antonio, Tx..I do care about this person but all I get is negitive stuff from people telling me he’s not true and dating other women…What should I do?

  • Robyn Pennington

    I’m single and it seems like everyone around me has a leading love interest in their life right now and I can’t help but be a tiny bit jealous. How do you deal with friends that are in relationships and you’re single?

  • Robyn Pennington

    I’m single and it seems like everyone around me has a leading love interest in their life right now and I can’t help but be a tiny bit jealous. How do you deal with friends that are in relationships and you’re single?

  • Renee

    I still love my ex-bf, we’ve been broken up for a few years now . 
    He says he feels the same but he “doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now.” Is he just stringing me along to see if he finds something better? I have been at this for years, will he EVER be ready or am I just being played?Please. I need your help.

    • Rwcannelise

      i’ve been in that situation for years. if he loved you, he’d want to make you his so some other guy doesn’t. don’t wait around for him. you might miss the man of your dreams while you are

  • Nicoleisdamnhot

    How can I tell a girl or a boy that i like her/him? And when do I know that she/he likes me to?

    • http://twitter.com/swtheart3 Amanda Apodaca

      i would just tell them, i have the regret of never telling someone how i felt and it bothers me to this day cause what if he did like me. don’t live with the regrets of what if. take chances

    • http://twitter.com/swtheart3 Amanda Apodaca

      i would just tell them, i have the regret of never telling someone how i felt and it bothers me to this day cause what if he did like me. don’t live with the regrets of what if. take chances

  • Charlotte Young3

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GM21cBKLxU4 After this I think I’ll just stick with Nicoles advice

  • http://twitter.com/swtheart3 Amanda Apodaca

    i wasted a lot of years liking a guy who noticed me and was always talking to me then we got to high school he ended up at a different school

  • http://twitter.com/swtheart3 Amanda Apodaca

    i wasted a lot of years liking a guy who noticed me and was always talking to me then we got to high school he ended up at a different school

  • Makikool

    Me and my husband been together almost 7 years. We’ve got two kids. I love my husband very much but i don’t fancy him sexual way anymore….Is it normal?! I don’t wanna be sexless couple. What would you do if you guys are my situation??

    • http://twitter.com/swtheart3 Amanda Apodaca

      i am in the same situation as you except i have 3 kids. with me i think its more of im tired from taking care of the kids and i don’t feel like he tries with me other than at night. almost like he ignores me all day until night when he wants something.

  • Brooke

    There is this guy. When I met him we really hit it off. We have so much in common and I really, really like him and I he likes me too. This is the first guy that I have had feelings for in this way before also. He just makes me happy besides when he is crushing my heart with all the weird things he says. The relationship was kind of screwed from that start though. I am going to away for college in about a month and he got out of a very screwed up relationship and I don’t think he is over her. He told me he reminded me of his ex-girlfriend and I caused all of these weird memories to come up. He’s also says that I am too good for him all of the time and will find someone way better. He wants to help me I guess? I am so confused. He is making me cry my eyes out and I don’t know what to do. Should I try somehow to make a relationship out of this, just be friends with him, stop talking to him etc. Maybe he really isn’t right for me. I have no idea since I hardly have any previous male encounters. I REALLY, REALLY need help right now. My heart is like crushed. I really need advice of some type.

  • Brooke

    There is this guy. When I met him we really hit it off. We have so much in common and I really, really like him and I he likes me too. This is the first guy that I have had feelings for in this way before also. He just makes me happy besides when he is crushing my heart with all the weird things he says. The relationship was kind of screwed from that start though. I am going to away for college in about a month and he got out of a very screwed up relationship and I don’t think he is over her. He told me he reminded me of his ex-girlfriend and I caused all of these weird memories to come up. He’s also says that I am too good for him all of the time and will find someone way better. He wants to help me I guess? I am so confused. He is making me cry my eyes out and I don’t know what to do. Should I try somehow to make a relationship out of this, just be friends with him, stop talking to him etc. Maybe he really isn’t right for me. I have no idea since I hardly have any previous male encounters. I REALLY, REALLY need help right now. My heart is like crushed. I really need advice of some type.

  • Brookephillips13

    hello(: ok so my boyfriend and i have been together for over a month. He tells me that he loves me a lot, like more then anyother girls he has dated. By the way we are both 14. And he is going to this girls house. and she likes him, but he doesnt like her. Him, his friend, and the girls friend are all going to be there. Should i be mad at him. Should i be upset? Please help.

    • http://twitter.com/swtheart3 Amanda Apodaca

      has he ever lied to you? if he has i would be very upset. why can’t you be invited!

  • amanda marie

    Hi Nicole and Benj, I’ve been with the same guy for almost 2 years now and I can’t seem to trust him because he’s lied to me more than once, and when I try to get him to confess up to me about such things after i found out he has lied, he doesn’t want to give in. Should I stay with him or leave him?

    • Cassy_Freya

      I think you should leave him. If you can’t trust him there is no way to keep being with him.

  • http://twitter.com/swtheart3 Amanda Apodaca

    hi guys, i really need some answers for this question. today i went swimming with my family and sisters boyfriend. my husband didn’t want to go, so when i got home he blew up at me cause i had fun. what am i suppose to do when my husband has feelings for my sister so when she has a boyfriend he wants nothing to do with her and wants to keep our kids away from her and him?

  • Anonymous

    I’ve been friends with a guy for about 3 years. Now he wants to be more then friends. He says he likes me a lot and wants to go out on a date but I don’t feel the same way about him. To me he is just a friend. What should I do? How do I tell him that without hurting his feelings or ruining our friendship?

  • http://www.nrichienews.com NRichieNews

    Hi Nicole, I am recently engaged and beginning to plan my wedding. I would love to have your advice & Benji’s on where to begin? It is so overwhelming and A LOT of things to be done, I don’t know where to begin!

    Oh and my names not Nicole Richie – it is Belinda – I don’t know why it says I am you!

  • http://www.nrichienews.com NRichieNews

    Hi Nicole, I am recently engaged and beginning to plan my wedding. I would love to have your advice & Benji’s on where to begin? It is so overwhelming and A LOT of things to be done, I don’t know where to begin!

    Oh and my names not Nicole Richie – it is Belinda – I don’t know why it says I am you!

  • Meg

    i met an ER nurse the other day and want to call back to ask him out…and encouraging words or advice?!

    • Meg

      let me clarify…i went to the ER … he was my murse.  only way to call him is to call the ER and leave a message.  creepy?!  Mr. Murse is the man of my dreams…

    • Meg

      let me clarify…i went to the ER … he was my murse.  only way to call him is to call the ER and leave a message.  creepy?!  Mr. Murse is the man of my dreams…

  • http://twitter.com/KindOfBooooring Laura Koini

    You’re in love with a very good friend and he feels the same. But for various reasons did you embarked on another relationship, but you have separated again. Noted, however, that you feel is still the same as before. But do not know what feelings, the respective other. What would you do? I hope you understand this problem (/text) because it´s written with google translater… (I hope it´s allright ^^”)

  • Megan

    What would you consider a bad relationship? Because my friends say I’m in bad relationship and I always go for bad guys. They always seem fine at first. So I don’t know how to like ‘detect’ if they are actually geniunely a good guy,  &by the time I realize they aren’t, I’m already somewhat attached.

    Please Please help!
    Thanks

  • Megan

    What would you consider a bad relationship? Because my friends say I’m in bad relationship and I always go for bad guys. They always seem fine at first. So I don’t know how to like ‘detect’ if they are actually geniunely a good guy,  &by the time I realize they aren’t, I’m already somewhat attached.

    Please Please help!
    Thanks

  • http://twitter.com/hearts0ngs Marie

    no question. just want to tell you that you two are dorable <3

  • http://twitter.com/SueRiotGraphics Sue

    I am gay, but a lot of people I know, don’t really know. After hearing them speak down on gay people, I don’t want to come out and find myself alone. I can’t even relax enough to have a proper relationship with any girl. I feel like I lead a double life, and it’s becoming a burden. What can I do?

  • http://twitter.com/SueRiotGraphics Sue

    I am gay, but a lot of people I know, don’t really know. After hearing them speak down on gay people, I don’t want to come out and find myself alone. I can’t even relax enough to have a proper relationship with any girl. I feel like I lead a double life, and it’s becoming a burden. What can I do?

    • Cassy_Freya

      If they let you down after you’re coming out they’re not really friends…

  • http://twitter.com/SueRiotGraphics Sue

    I am gay, but a lot of people I know, don’t really know. After hearing them speak down on gay people, I don’t want to come out and find myself alone. I can’t even relax enough to have a proper relationship with any girl. I feel like I lead a double life, and it’s becoming a burden. What can I do?

  • http://www.facebook.com/PEACEANDLOVE1999 Iveigh Parrish

    i like my best friend and he know but he just wants to be friends and everytime he gets a girlfriend i try and be supportive but its to hard i dont know what to do anymore i love him so much..

  • Star

    Hi Benji and Nicole, my bff Masha came in a difficult situation. Two guys who are best friends for a while became friends with her until they both fell in love. One of them confessed to their feelings, but she opposed relationship with him. But the other still remains silent about it. Masha has repeatedly made ​​allusions to it, but neither of which has not changed. only this is the first resentful, how to make so no one to be deprived? Please help
    Lucy. Russia

  • Cassy_Freya

    Hello. I want to get an appartment with my boyfriend but we don’t have money. He really don’t want to work. He spent all his days in front of his computer, playing, I’ve the feeling he doesn’t want a commitment. He got more diplomas than me but he’s not looking for a real job… I don’t know what to do. My friends told me to let him but I can’t. He’s 25 now and he’s still at his dad’s (who I hate). Tell me what I can do? Please. Thanks.

  • http://www.facebook.com/Mylne Mylène Gaudin

    Hey Benj & Nic

    my BFF & I live like 3hours to car one of the other one and we can’t see a lot (1 times in 2 years) we know us for 8 years (thanks to Good Charlotte). Suggestion for we don’t forget us and to see us more often?
    Thank you very much

  • Michelle Herrera

    Will you be doing a reality show?  I’d love to see how you both go about your life with your children and careers!  Nicole, you’re so beautiful, I miss seeing you.  You were so funny on the Simple Life!!

  • http://twitter.com/ROLLERGiRLxx ☮ erin ☮

    my best friend has been “in love” with this guy for 15 years. we are both 25 and shes had a serious crush on this same guy since we were 10 years old. The two of them were childhood friends and she was never confident enough to tell him her feelings.  she tried to tell me they “dated” in high school but they had to keep it a secret because he was “popular and didnt want anyone to know”.  She has also said she went to visit him in secret over the past 5 years or so while he was between relationships.  She’s caught up in the whole movie thing of falling in love with her childhood sweetheart and living happily ever after.   I have played along with this whole thing for 15 years with her and it is getting old and i don’t know how to tell her to move on with her life (or if she will listen). She won’t date any other guys because she wants to be available for when and if he becomes single (he’s currently going thru a divorce).  I just really want a nice/HONEST way to tell her to give it up because I’m afraid that if I don’t she’s going to go the rest of her life chasing this fantasy.

  • Anonymous

    Dear Nicole and Benji,
    I seriously have an issue. I am 19 years old and super shy. Anytime I have a crush on a guy, he always goes for another girl (a confident girl). I really dont know how to put myself out there. How do I let a guy know I like him when I’m too shy and scared to tell him?

    Sincerly,
    Too Shy Too Talk

  • Kirsten

    Well i broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago it was a mutual break up and i was in town on saturday and i saw him other guys were flirting with me and he wanted to talk to me privately so i went outside with him then he started saying how much he missed me and he wants to be with me and he said he loves me well i went back to his that night, I facebook messaged him on sunday asking him what’s going on between us etc. and he hasn’t replied the whole thing is just running over and over in my head. Im tempted to send him another facebook message but am unsure what to do help?

  • Kirsten

    Well i broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago it was a mutual break up and i was in town on saturday and i saw him other guys were flirting with me and he wanted to talk to me privately so i went outside with him then he started saying how much he missed me and he wants to be with me and he said he loves me well i went back to his that night, I facebook messaged him on sunday asking him what’s going on between us etc. and he hasn’t replied the whole thing is just running over and over in my head. Im tempted to send him another facebook message but am unsure what to do help?

  • Team_JoelMadden

    Hi Benj an Nic :)
    okay so, here’s my question – Benj, wanna have dinner and then catch a movie sometime soon? :D

  • Team_JoelMadden

    Hi Benj an Nic :)
    okay so, here’s my question – Benj, wanna have dinner and then catch a movie sometime soon? :D

  • Team_JoelMadden

    Hi Benj an Nic :)
    okay so, here’s my question – Benj, wanna have dinner and then catch a movie sometime soon? :D

  • Team_JoelMadden

    Hi Benj an Nic :)
    okay so, here’s my question – Benj, wanna have dinner and then catch a movie sometime soon? :D

  • Team_JoelMadden

    Hi Benj an Nic :)
    okay so, here’s my question – Benj, wanna have dinner and then catch a movie sometime soon? :D

  • Cassy_Freya

    Hello. My boyfriend is 25 and he doesn’t want to work at all. He’s just playing games all day long. Should I stay or should I go??

  • Cassy_Freya

    Hello. My boyfriend is 25 and he doesn’t want to work at all. He’s just playing games all day long. Should I stay or should I go??

  • Veronica

    I’m a single mom and I find it really difficult to date. My son is 5 and I worry a lot about inviting someone new into our lives and am overly cautious about it. A friend told me that I shouldn’t disclose that I am a single parent unless I see the relationship going somewhere but I feel this is wrong. (I have a “If someone doesn’t like it too bad” kind of attitude.) What are your thoughts about that and/or what tips could you offer a single parent seeking a social life?

    PS: Nicole, you’re my style icon. I wish I had your closet. :)

     

  • Omaha1942

    if you ask a girl if she treat u as a friend or date, and she said she have no comments, what does that mean?

    • Cassy_Freya

      Ouch!!

  • Unknown!!

    i like a guy and he talks to me nicely..he stares at me whenever i pass by..but he never talks to me when i’m sad…is it because he just wants to have fun with me as a friend or is it because he likes me too and don’t wanna be weak by seeing me crying?

  • Sonia

    this is ankita , someone has ditched me ,he was already in a rlationship with someone before he didnt told me now few days before i came to know whar shall i do to cum out feel to die i have been used and dumb third time please tell me something

  • Incoplox

    Hey…im 16..and i justmet this girl a month ago…now we are already talking about marriage and children..i was happy with the idea at first..now im not really..im too young to make these decisions and she expects me to move to chicago with her in 2 years..but i dont want to..what should i tell her? she also said i have to w8 10 or 12 years because she is going to college medical school and something else…even if i wanted to get married truthfully i cant wait that long…help me please im so confused in life right now..thank you.

  • berda345

    He likes it when i call him a certain name.i accidentally called him a different and asked me why.what does that mean

  • bugg

    this guy kissed me but he wont ask me out..he tells everyone that he is going to but he has said that for a long time and he just wont ask me out

  • Diannnna1

    im very popular at the gym ive been theyre 4 yrs and my boyfriend gets super jealouse then he ignores me  i dont understand why he doesnt tell me how he feels at least so i could have a idea he just

  • Lessy

    Hey Benji and Nicole ! How would you react if you catch your girlfriend spying your ex ?? My bestfriend is with her man since 5 year now and she keeps spying his ex on the internet just to see if she still has contact with him and to look at her pictures and compare herself to his ex. What does that mean to you ?

  • Sarah

    Hey Nicole and Benji! How do you know when a guy is flirting with you? I’m guessing this is more of a question for Benji but.. how can you tell if a guy is flirting with you and not just being a friendly person? Is there a certain way a guy acts? I went to a concert and there was a guy in my row but came alone. We were talking the whole night before the main act came on. He was a few seats away and we still talked around the two people sitting next to us. Also at the end of the show we were walking to our cars and we still talked. When he was ahead he turned around and waited for me to catch up. I didn’t ask for his number because I’m super shy like that and I feel girls shouldn’t really ask? I don’t know, anyway I got his facebook and gave him my number through there to text me sometime. I know lame, but hopefully he texts me sometime this week because he didn’t text me yesterday when I messaged him his number.

    It’s sad that our generation, or people now are depending on a social network site to talk to someone. I wish people were actually more into talking on the phone rather than texting or talking in person. hmm..

    So what do you two think?

  • kedija alhmed

    hey.i love him so much and we were togethr for a year.but i moved 2 australia.its been 5 month now..he calls and texts me somtimes..i miss him soo much..i wonder if he still cosider me as his girl.he never mentioned anyting.am confused….i want 2 know whats going on…what should i do?? am going crazy thinking whats on his mind.

  • Virgo_053

    hi
    I dnt know that if my cousin like me or not????he chats with me almost after 3 days but he teases me soo much….
    he also told my sister that he like our another cousin…
    plz now tell me wts this happening:(

  • Virgo_053

    hi em worried 
    actually my cousin tease me in diffrnt wayz and show as he hates me….
    but he wants to chat with me…
    he told my sisiter that he like another girl:(

    • Virgo_053

      plz reply me sum 1 :(

  • Kylievillena

    Hi,

    Do you think this will work out as a partner both have same birthday and year?

    Thanks

    Taurus

    • Cassy_Freya

      That’s awsome ^^

  • Kendra

    Hey I just bought your book “The truth about diamonds” and I can not put it down. Your amazing. =)

  • Kendra

    Hey I just bought your book “The truth about diamonds” and I can not put it down. Your amazing. =)

  • Kendra

    Hey I just bought your book “The truth about diamonds” and I can not put it down. Your amazing. =)

  • Kendra

    Hey I just bought your book “The truth about diamonds” and I can not put it down. Your amazing. =)

  • Kendra

    Hey I just bought your book “The truth about diamonds” and I can not put it down. Your amazing. =)

  • http://www.facebook.com/discogrrrl Sabine Heimans

    How do you know whether a guy likes you for who you are or just your looks??

  • Abby Loren11

    Hi nicole and benji
    My and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now,
    We are extremely serious and he treats me perfect except for one thing..
    He is extremely insecure about my PAST relationships. He is constantly asking me questions about my past, I haven’t told him everything about my past because I know he is not secure to handle it …
    I told myself I would tell him when he is secure about me but the questions are basically becoming a daily thing now..
    I dont know what to do..should i just tell him everything ?
    I am just scared of what he is going to think of me :/

  • Abby Loren11

    Hi nicole and benji
    My and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now,
    We are extremely serious and he treats me perfect except for one thing..
    He is extremely insecure about my PAST relationships. He is constantly asking me questions about my past, I haven’t told him everything about my past because I know he is not secure to handle it …
    I told myself I would tell him when he is secure about me but the questions are basically becoming a daily thing now..
    I dont know what to do..should i just tell him everything ?
    I am just scared of what he is going to think of me :/

  • Priya Harry

    Hi guys, i have being in relationship for last 4 years with same guys. i love him the most. we use to have small fights but some things went wrong when i asked him if he is committed to me. he actually started working and got frustrated with job and me and he stopped saying that he love me and all off a sudden he wants to break up, but the confused part is he want us to work things out for a year. he want us to not be bf and gf for one year but still see each other (dnt go dating with other people) and then if we think its working he will say yes. my problem is what will happen after 1 year. i dont want to he kept hanging and then after 1 year he says he dnt want to have anything to do with me. Because i love him i am supporting his this decision but i really dnt want to do it. I am just confused. i hope u guys can help me out plz. Thank u so much.

  • Harry20

    Hi guys, i have being in relationship for last 4 years with same guys. i love him the most. we use to have small fights but some things went wrong when i asked him if he is committed to me. he actually started working and got frustrated with job and me and he stopped saying that he love me and all off a sudden he wants to break up, but the confused part is he want us to work things out for a year. he want us to not be bf and gf for one year but still see each other (dnt go dating with other people) and then if we think its working he will say yes. my problem is what will happen after 1 year. i dont want to he kept hanging and then after 1 year he says he dnt want to have anything to do with me. Because i love him i am supporting his this decision but i really dnt want to do it. I am just confused. i hope u guys can help me out plz. Thank u so much.

  • Harry20

    Ok, my bf of 4 years broke up with me a few weeks ago and I will be moving out soon. He says that he still loves me and wants me in his life. He is open to being friends then trying to date to see if we can get back to the happy place we were at when we fell in love. Says he wants to fall in love with me all over again. What do you think, dating after a relationship? Will it be weird knowing that we are technically single (but not seeing other people) when we have been exclusive for 4 years?

    Before you answer let me explain briefly about our relationship in the beginning. We use to work together and at that time he was having tough time with his x-gf and so was i with my x. So we start sharing and became good friends eventually started dating. When we were in relationship in start his x-gf came back for  while so at that time he was dating both of us but he use to come to me saying that she is a bitch and dnt understand. He use to say that i am very understanding and he never felt like this with any other girl.  His past is full of casual and emotional relationships whereas he was my first bf whom i had any physical relationship with. We fell madly in love with eachother and did not leave eachother’s sides (not really healthy now that I look back on it). So we never had that whole dating experinece… never got to be excited to see each other for a night or stay over a night or two because we moved in together within a month time. It was all very fast and we seemed to skip a lot of important steps to building a healthy foundation. So, with that being said…. will me moving out and us trying to date to see where it goes work? I am worried that the strings will be hard to cut and I won’t like the idea of him being out with other girls. Gosh this is hard! Help! Should I move on? i keep telling him we shld completley break up but he wants to give this realationship another chance. And i told him i wld not call u or message u u have to approach me if u want to. but i am really confused bcos I truly love this man 

  • Harry20

    Ok, my bf of 4 years broke up with me a few weeks ago and I will be moving out soon. He says that he still loves me and wants me in his life. He is open to being friends then trying to date to see if we can get back to the happy place we were at when we fell in love. Says he wants to fall in love with me all over again. What do you think, dating after a relationship? Will it be weird knowing that we are technically single (but not seeing other people) when we have been exclusive for 4 years?

    Before you answer let me explain briefly about our relationship in the beginning. We use to work together and at that time he was having tough time with his x-gf and so was i with my x. So we start sharing and became good friends eventually started dating. When we were in relationship in start his x-gf came back for  while so at that time he was dating both of us but he use to come to me saying that she is a bitch and dnt understand. He use to say that i am very understanding and he never felt like this with any other girl.  His past is full of casual and emotional relationships whereas he was my first bf whom i had any physical relationship with. We fell madly in love with eachother and did not leave eachother’s sides (not really healthy now that I look back on it). So we never had that whole dating experinece… never got to be excited to see each other for a night or stay over a night or two because we moved in together within a month time. It was all very fast and we seemed to skip a lot of important steps to building a healthy foundation. So, with that being said…. will me moving out and us trying to date to see where it goes work? I am worried that the strings will be hard to cut and I won’t like the idea of him being out with other girls. Gosh this is hard! Help! Should I move on? i keep telling him we shld completley break up but he wants to give this realationship another chance. And i told him i wld not call u or message u u have to approach me if u want to. but i am really confused bcos I truly love this man 

  • Harry20

    Ok, my bf of 4 years broke up with me a few weeks ago and I will be moving out soon. He says that he still loves me and wants me in his life. He is open to being friends then trying to date to see if we can get back to the happy place we were at when we fell in love. Says he wants to fall in love with me all over again. What do you think, dating after a relationship? Will it be weird knowing that we are technically single (but not seeing other people) when we have been exclusive for 4 years?

    Before you answer let me explain briefly about our relationship in the beginning. We use to work together and at that time he was having tough time with his x-gf and so was i with my x. So we start sharing and became good friends eventually started dating. When we were in relationship in start his x-gf came back for  while so at that time he was dating both of us but he use to come to me saying that she is a bitch and dnt understand. He use to say that i am very understanding and he never felt like this with any other girl.  His past is full of casual and emotional relationships whereas he was my first bf whom i had any physical relationship with. We fell madly in love with eachother and did not leave eachother’s sides (not really healthy now that I look back on it). So we never had that whole dating experinece… never got to be excited to see each other for a night or stay over a night or two because we moved in together within a month time. It was all very fast and we seemed to skip a lot of important steps to building a healthy foundation. So, with that being said…. will me moving out and us trying to date to see where it goes work? I am worried that the strings will be hard to cut and I won’t like the idea of him being out with other girls. Gosh this is hard! Help! Should I move on? i keep telling him we shld completley break up but he wants to give this realationship another chance. And i told him i wld not call u or message u u have to approach me if u want to. but i am really confused bcos I truly love this man 

  • Harry20

    Ok, my bf of 4 years broke up with me a few weeks ago and I will be moving out soon. He says that he still loves me and wants me in his life. He is open to being friends then trying to date to see if we can get back to the happy place we were at when we fell in love. Says he wants to fall in love with me all over again. What do you think, dating after a relationship? Will it be weird knowing that we are technically single (but not seeing other people) when we have been exclusive for 4 years?

    Before you answer let me explain briefly about our relationship in the beginning. We use to work together and at that time he was having tough time with his x-gf and so was i with my x. So we start sharing and became good friends eventually started dating. When we were in relationship in start his x-gf came back for  while so at that time he was dating both of us but he use to come to me saying that she is a bitch and dnt understand. He use to say that i am very understanding and he never felt like this with any other girl.  His past is full of casual and emotional relationships whereas he was my first bf whom i had any physical relationship with. We fell madly in love with eachother and did not leave eachother’s sides (not really healthy now that I look back on it). So we never had that whole dating experinece… never got to be excited to see each other for a night or stay over a night or two because we moved in together within a month time. It was all very fast and we seemed to skip a lot of important steps to building a healthy foundation. So, with that being said…. will me moving out and us trying to date to see where it goes work? I am worried that the strings will be hard to cut and I won’t like the idea of him being out with other girls. Gosh this is hard! Help! Should I move on? i keep telling him we shld completley break up but he wants to give this realationship another chance. And i told him i wld not call u or message u u have to approach me if u want to. but i am really confused bcos I truly love this man 

  • Harry20

    Ok, my bf of 4 years broke up with me a few weeks ago and I will be moving out soon. He says that he still loves me and wants me in his life. He is open to being friends then trying to date to see if we can get back to the happy place we were at when we fell in love. Says he wants to fall in love with me all over again. What do you think, dating after a relationship? Will it be weird knowing that we are technically single (but not seeing other people) when we have been exclusive for 4 years?

    Before you answer let me explain briefly about our relationship in the beginning. We use to work together and at that time he was having tough time with his x-gf and so was i with my x. So we start sharing and became good friends eventually started dating. When we were in relationship in start his x-gf came back for  while so at that time he was dating both of us but he use to come to me saying that she is a bitch and dnt understand. He use to say that i am very understanding and he never felt like this with any other girl.  His past is full of casual and emotional relationships whereas he was my first bf whom i had any physical relationship with. We fell madly in love with eachother and did not leave eachother’s sides (not really healthy now that I look back on it). So we never had that whole dating experinece… never got to be excited to see each other for a night or stay over a night or two because we moved in together within a month time. It was all very fast and we seemed to skip a lot of important steps to building a healthy foundation. So, with that being said…. will me moving out and us trying to date to see where it goes work? I am worried that the strings will be hard to cut and I won’t like the idea of him being out with other girls. Gosh this is hard! Help! Should I move on? i keep telling him we shld completley break up but he wants to give this realationship another chance. And i told him i wld not call u or message u u have to approach me if u want to. but i am really confused bcos I truly love this man 

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_D5G4TBHW7GLM6FVDR5ZBFHSAUU Shaun Kik

    You both are doing a great job by sorting out the relationship problems of the others… I appreciates your will to help the others… There are very few persons like you who give their time to others..

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  • annie schoenhardt

    my oldest sister and her husband first started fighting in the morning at 7 am. he yelled at her and woke me my other sister and my other young brother up. he embarrassed us in front of our lawn mu-ores. then when he called her and then our home he said that he’ll wait after she said that she was going to the bathroom. then when he came home he was acting like nothing happened  then when he came outside after dinner with us , they started taking about their feelings he started to yell at her. we could hear his voice from inside. Now  every time my older sister sees him  come into the  he same room she  stop talking . i keep telling her to talk it out with and ask him not yell. its just i don’t her to get hurt. because he psychically hurt her and emotionally hurt he. what do i  tell her next?

  • 96tman101

    Ight I have a problem. I’ve fallen for my best friend. She super pretty, sweet, funny, and someone I can really relate too. We always have fun together. I know she has feelings for me because I can hold her, and I see the way she looks me in the eyes. I’ve made a move and she didn’t reject it. Sounds good right?
     Well not so much. She has a boyfriend. I couldn’t give two about him if he wasn’t a good friend of mine. We share the same study hall too. We are a lot a like. I don’t want to hurt him, but I need this girl! Also, I can’t tell that if she could fall for me so easily, that she couldn’t do it again. AHHH :(

    I don’t need a reply, but one would be nice. Thanks to anyone who reads this. 

  • Abibadfairy

    hey ..i like this boy and he had just dumped his gf and now is single …he know’s i like him and he got off with a girl 2day and was braging about it what do i do ?please help?
    thanks.

  • shhhitsascret

    what does it means if you had a dream of your crush and he said he likes you twice but he really doesent like you?

  • Dirty_acu

    My gf says im borning her to tears she complains about not having anything to talk about an she is always horny as hell but she wont get a virbartor what do i do?

  • Eudeline

    Bonjour Nicole, je suis française et je suis fan de toi ! Tu es un modèle pour moi. Tu es une femme magnifique et une personne bien. Je te souhaite pleins de bonnes choses et je t’embrasse !

  • Nhung_thach

    I had a one night stand with a guy,the next day he told me that he loves me and now he’s all up on my business.

  • Sophiemgrimes

    what does it mean?, heres the thin gmy boyfriend instisted that hje loved me so i put my self out there stuck by him ( app i have issues with commitment maybe tru bu anyway ) and i have truley falling IN love with him 100% and latly he dont say i love you anymore he just says i think i love you all time =S why has he gone from i lvoe you to i think i love you ? does that mean anything also his attitude towards me has changed in a bad way like a i dotn give a crap shut up attitude.  when i mention this sort of stuff to him he just changes for a monemtn and says stuff like i wunt ever break up with you and says he will do anything for me but the thing is he dont do anything even the little stuf like going to shop for me which i do for him . i just really need to know. doe this sound like A GUY WHO HAS LOST INTEREST IN ME BUT AFFRAID TO BREAK UP WITH ME :/ cos t is tearing me apart i cant stop cryin im so afraid to lose him ? please HELP !!!

  • Louise

    Hey guys! pls im needing help!
    im in a relationship for 2 years and a half, some months ago me and my boyf started to fight and discuss for every stupid thing. I wanna do something to make everything like it was before, but its a fail everytime. I traveled abroad to study for one month, and i tough that when i came back our relation would be better, but its not. we still discussing everytime we are together and even by the phone!
    Also, im only 20 years old and sometimes i think that im too young to be in a serious relationship, and i should enjoy more my youth, but in the same time im afraid that i’ll never find some other that really loves me. like he does.
    Please guys, id like an opinion or anything from u both!
    im ur big fan! thanks xoxo

  • Samantha

    Hey you guys so im in a relationship with a guy who ive come to have strong feelings for and everything was going great until recently some female contacted me saying he was contacting her saying he was single and wanted to meet up with her. I confronted him about it he says she was the one hitting him up and he was just ignoring her. He hasnt stopped calling me or telling me how much i mean to him and how he dosent wanna lose me to something thats not even true. Its basically a he said she said situation and idk what to do do i trust my man or a complete stranger. I just don’t wanna believe him and her be right or vise versa. Any advise?