• Ask Kelly
  • June 30, 2011 | Blog
    Nicole Richie & Kelly Sawyer

     

    You can consult all the experts in the world, but the opinions you value most are the ones that belong to your friends.

    Meet my friend, Kelly Sawyer-Patricof. Kelly is a woman who wears many hats. She is the creative director of Satine’s Private Label. She is a passionate philanthropist and co-president of Baby2Baby. Most important, Kelly is an extraordinary mother of two.

    I was pregnant at 25, and although I was technically an adult, I didn’t feel like a REAL adult. I bought all the pregnancy and baby books, watched all the videos, but nothing hit home. It all felt so inaccessible to me. The transition to motherhood seemed out of my reach. Even though the books were very informative, I felt a bit overwhelmed.

    Lucky for me, I have great friends that I can turn to. Kelly is one of those girls I can discuss ANYTHING with. She is a young, free-spirited, working mother. She is never afraid to break it down and keep it real. Kelly is one of those great women who seem to take the juggling act of motherhood, marriage, and work in stride — while wearing 5-inch heels and drinking a glass of Sauvignon Blanc.

    Now YOU can turn to Kelly, too. Ask her questions about kids, parenting – anything you need to talk about with a really smart, funny, honest, and supportive friend. I know I will.

    Post your questions in the comments below.

                
    • cosmo459

      nice blog

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_SGFT55ZCCFRMYMK3UMU5S5ZKCU cosmo459

      have a nice day

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1224061472 Michelle York

      I guess my first question would be: How do you juggle two kids as a full-time working mom and wife? I have an almost two-year right now, I work full-time and also wear a ton of hats. I desperately want my son to have a sibling, but the thought of taking on another child terrifies me. My son is so demanding and time consuming. I can’t imagine having a toddler AND a newborn AND a full-time job as an insurance agent. How do you do manage? -Michelle, 28, Thousand Oaks, CA

    • Montreal Fashion Moms

      Hi,

      We are Joanna & Yussie from Montreal Fashion Moms Blog. Nicole, you are one of our favorite fashion moms. We were wondering if you & Kelly could give us some tips we can share with our readers on how to balance work and family life, and how to stay fabulous and fashionable while keeping up with everyone’s hectic schedules.

      Thanks,
      Joanna & Yussie

      ~ Montreal Fashion Moms ~
      http://montrealfashionmoms.blogspot.com/

    • QUEEN

      i’d like to know what your favorite recipes are for baby food! my son is going to be 6 months old in less than a week and i’ve only been giving him breastmilk and every now and then he gets a bottle of water!!! i want to start making my own baby food to save money and to know exactly what’s being put in my his mouth!!! HELP PLEASE!!!

    • Boutiquemilf

      cloth or disposables?

    • Boutiquemilf

      cloth or disposables?

    • http://twitter.com/MAChick Margie Cardec

      Here’s one. Friends, and Their Kids… Sometime’s I feel I have to End a friendship because of the different ways we raise, and discipline our children. I don’t even know how to explain it. To Me her kids run the place. What I don’t let my kids do in MY own house she will let hers{in My own house}… I Love spending time with her, but without her kids. How awful is this!?!?! This has happened on more then one occasion. So is it Me? Am I wrong???

      Lost…

    • http://twitter.com/MAChick Margie Cardec

      Here’s one. Friends, and Their Kids… Sometime’s I feel I have to End a friendship because of the different ways we raise, and discipline our children. I don’t even know how to explain it. To Me her kids run the place. What I don’t let my kids do in MY own house she will let hers{in My own house}… I Love spending time with her, but without her kids. How awful is this!?!?! This has happened on more then one occasion. So is it Me? Am I wrong???

      Lost…

    • http://twitter.com/MAChick Margie Cardec

      Here’s one. Friends, and Their Kids… Sometime’s I feel I have to End a friendship because of the different ways we raise, and discipline our children. I don’t even know how to explain it. To Me her kids run the place. What I don’t let my kids do in MY own house she will let hers{in My own house}… I Love spending time with her, but without her kids. How awful is this!?!?! This has happened on more then one occasion. So is it Me? Am I wrong???

      Lost…

    • askchibi

      Can you encourage people to practice car seat safety?  My sister is a certified car seat technician, and she literally sees improperly installed seats every single day.  and, if it’s not installed properly, it’s doing nothing for protection!  http://www.thesafestseat.com

    • askchibi

      Can you encourage people to practice car seat safety?  My sister is a certified car seat technician, and she literally sees improperly installed seats every single day.  and, if it’s not installed properly, it’s doing nothing for protection!  http://www.thesafestseat.com

    • askchibi

      Can you encourage people to practice car seat safety?  My sister is a certified car seat technician, and she literally sees improperly installed seats every single day.  and, if it’s not installed properly, it’s doing nothing for protection!  http://www.thesafestseat.com

    • Cultismmidge

      you say 5 inch heels as if it were an accomplishment. Can we make it 7 inch heels??

    • http://paperheartsandcranes.blogspot.com/ Karolina

      What are your best beauty/fashion tips for a new mom and a breast feeding mom?

      (I’m a mommy blogger too!)http://paperheartsandcranes.blogspot.com/

    • http://twitter.com/nicolerichiebr Nicole Richie Brazil

      Such a beautiful friendship. 

    • Amanda

      I don’t have children right now but I would like to soon.  A concern I have though is that I will feel a bit isolated as not many of my friends have children.  What are some good ways to make friends with other moms and to make sure that your children have other kids to play with?

    • NRichieOfficial

      Love You girls :)  

    • Arlinee_S

      Love you both. Such an amazing friendship. You girls are just a model life for me.

    • http://twitter.com/AstridEriksen Astrid Eriksen

      can we make it she’s not a hooker?

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1845566288 Charlotte Henni

      I’m too young to ask Kelly about children lol… But I can say I love you both girls, you’re working women and mom as the same
      time!! LOTS OF RESPECT AND ADMIRATION. xoxo from france

    • Nancy

      would it make a difference to make babyfood myself instead of buying it in the stores? I mean, isn’t it likely when you make it yourself if it still has the important vitamines for my child ..?

    • http://twitter.com/fianordqvist sofia nordqvist

      I love you Nicole, I adore you for everything! from being a lost young women who was partying alot to a fashonista, awesome mom and you are glowing!! <3 and I love your labels! keep going, greetings from Sweden

      / Sofia

    • Tubby

      Hey Kelly and Nicole just stopped by to say Hi

    • NRichieOfficial

      I love You Nicole :)  

    • Heidi

      ugh nicole has nannies galore and the money to have all the help she needs. not that nicole is not awesome, but celebrities have the means to have everything taken care of. when she wants to work out, or shop or just sleep, hiring someone to take care of everything for her is not a concern.

    • Heidi

      WHEN ARE THESE QUESTIONS GOING TO BE ANSWERED????

      good one about the friends who disagree on parenting. it seems like if someone raises their kids in a way you completely disagree with, a lot of that bad behavior could rub off on your own kids and ruin all your hard work.

    • Jules

      tell her you respect her and your friendship, but you have a different philosophy on raising children. there are some things you don’t want your kids exposed to, and for now it would be best if you guys hung out sans kiddies. don’t criticize her or lecture her, if she wanted your advice she would ask for it. but if you do want to still hang out with her, then let her know it will have to be kid free time (yours shouldn’t be allowed either – otherwise it could be interpreted that your parenting style is superior to hers)

    • JMEG

      My fiance and I are getting married in September and are hoping to start a family soon after that. I have heard of the importance of taking prenatal vitamins before conception as well as throughout the pregnancy and while breastfeeding. Are there any other things one can do to prepare themselves for pregnancy?

    • Anonymous

      Hi Kelly & Nicole,

      I am interested in subscribing to a baby magazine. Do you have any favorites that you’d recommend? Do you find them useful; are they even worth it? Ideally I would use them for creative DIY home baby remedies, healthy recipes, etc. I want to know the magazine I’m investing in is for youthful, fun loving, hands-on moms like me.

      Thank you for the advice!
      Adriann

    • Blondie

      Ok so i gave this guy a hickey and his phone got taken away… do you think he still wants to talk to me or hand out… :/ 

    • Mary-Jane

      hi, I was hoping I could have your advice. I have recently split from the father of my children and my son (7yr old) is having trouble dealing with the constant let downs of their father, my girls (6&8) are coping fine but my son has been smashing up his classroom and running out of the class during lessons. They think he may have ADHD or dyslexia but my freinds think it might be more of an emotional problem to do with the split.
      do you have any advice?

    • Mary-Jane

      hi, I was hoping I could have your advice. I have recently split from the father of my children and my son (7yr old) is having trouble dealing with the constant let downs of their father, my girls (6&8) are coping fine but my son has been smashing up his classroom and running out of the class during lessons. They think he may have ADHD or dyslexia but my freinds think it might be more of an emotional problem to do with the split.
      do you have any advice?

    • Anonymous

      Kelly, what are your thoughts on vaccines? I find it to be an interesting topic for mothers. I am on the fence because I know that if they are not given then you putting your child at risk of many diseases that have come back. My son just had his MMR today, and I chose to split this series Immunization up into separate appointments. Next he has a Hep A and then the Varicella vaccine. I hope that I am making the wright choices because I am still giving him the shots. Sometimes I feel like I am over paranoid about vaccines. I read to many things on the internet that make my mind go nuts. I just have the unsettling about pumping so many vaccines in such a small body all at once before they even turn 1yr. Any feed back would be great.
      Nicole, I would love to hear your thoughts as well. Being that you are a mother and from what I see in the tabloids a great one at that <3 it would be nice to hear your thoughts :)
      thanks
      Heather

    • Moky

      soooo, my question is how do iget my 8 year old son to go to be on his own, and sleep on his own, instead of me going with him and sitting next to his bed on the uncomfortable armchair! UGH!!!! help!!!!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1412083546 Celina Ross

      Dear Kelly,
       
      TODAY, my 10 year old daughter (5th grade) was given vaccinations (Hep A and Varicella) without my consent.  Long story short as I can make it. My daughter has been dealing with a sore throat since Sunday and low grade fever. Treating it as allergies (she was sneezing too), I decided to take her in today to rule out strep throat (or worse). 
      Here is where it goes down hill quick. I left her with my mother to attend a 1 hour staff meeting. Grandmother was able to get an appointment to see the Doctor right away. They did a strep test to find it was negative.  Doctor said ALLERGIES.
      THEN… Doctor said, since she is here, we will do her 10 year checkup.  They ask my mother if her 10 yr. vaccinations had been given.  My mother had NO idea.  These vaccinations are not required, for the purpose of attending public school, until my daughter is in 7th grade (in TX). 
      Doctor went to the IMMTRAC website to see that the shots had not been given and took it upon herself to administer them. 

      My heart was broken.  I was mad as hell.  I feel immunizations are 100% a parents choice.  I do vaccinate my children.  I have a folder for each child that I have in safe keeping with their shot records that I bring with us WHEN IT’S TIME TO VACCINATE.  I would never think to vaccinate when they are ill and their immune systems are low.  I would also never agree to vaccinate when I could push it up for 2 years.
      After freaking out on my poor mother, who was really doing me a favor, I acknowledged that I was most upset with the Doctor. 
      I did call the office today in hopes of speaking with the good Doctor and expressing my concerns.  The staffers said that maybe, an office manager would call me tomorrow to discuss.
      Quite honestly, I’m considering filing a complaint against this Doctor.  The kicker is that she has kids too.
      Please talk me off my ledge if I am over reacting. 
      Like Nicole, I was a bit of a wild child. Pregnant at 25 with my first, I became this crazy hippy mom who breastfed each kiddo for 2 years, i made my own baby food and used cloth diapers. I educated myself in Parenting101 by reading books and talking to my mommy friends. Experiences are meant for sharing & learning afterall. I’d value any feedback you would like to share-

      Phew, I feel better already!
      Thank you,
      Celina

       

    • Joanna

      Dear Kelly,

      After giving birth to your children, how long were you off on maternity leave, and how did you feel/cope with having to go back to work. I have 2 months left before my son heads to daycare full time and I’m back to work. I’m kind of dreading it.

      Joanna

    • Bonita Applebum

      Dear Kelly, 

       My “boyfriend” and I are not married, and have three children. I got pregnant 9 months into the relationship. The good news is, we plan on getting married in the fall. (after 6 years) the bad news is, I feel as if we have lost our former “in love” selves. We never have time to have dates, or even snuggle as the children all sleep in the bed with us EVERY Night. He plays in a band and even though practice is only one night a week, I feel that takes precedence over any date night. The worst of it is, we have sex maybe twice a month becuase of our schedules:( I really want time to connect with him and fall in love all over again, but $$$ and time to do it seems impossible. We are a great parenting team but I feel in the future the way things are going, that maybe be ALL we are. Any advice on how to put romance back to the realtionship?

    • Katja

      Eat fresh and organic food, drink a lot of water, take the vitamins, make sure you get enough uninterrupted sleep, relax as often as you can and do not put pressure on yourself. Make sure that you feel as balanced and happy as you can. Good luck!!!

    • Katja

      Hi Mary-Jane,did this behavior first occur after the split? I feel it would be best to first talk to your son without blaming him OR blaming his father. Try to stay neutral and just ask him, how he feels. If he doesn’t want to talk about it, it might be best to open up first and tell him, how you feel. Again, without blaming your ex for your feelings. That might make it easier for him to talk about his emotions. Make sure you let your son know that you support him no matter what and that you understand how hard it is for him to deal with this situation emotionally.

    • Katja

      Hi Bonita, have you ever talked to your partner about this? If this is somehow possible, try to find some time where you can talk uninterrupted, tell him how you feel without blaming anyone or making anyone else responsible. Just say how it feels to you that things are the way they are. I see a great possibility for you to get your relationship back to romance, attention and affection, if you just start doing some little shifts in your behavior. If you would like to know more – I am a relationship coach and would love to work with you on this without charging you. If you are interested, just email me at: katja@giveyourselflove.com (my website isn’t up yet, but coming soon).

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